Problems or Opportunities?
by Clyde Dennis, a.k.a. "Mr. How-To"
As best I can tell here’s how it breaks down.
Some people see problems as opportunities. Understanding that getting through
each opportunity puts them closer to the next one. Kind of going through life
with a stair step mentality. Excited to get to the next round of new
opportunities because they are seen as ‘steps’ along a pathway. They feel
like the bigger the opportunity (problem) the better because that means a bigger
step taken. With this outlook they welcome big challenges. They push ahead
boldly, as though it were a sporting event in which the opportunities were the
opponent. The opportunity being the thing that must be overcome or conquered in
order to move up to higher levels of competition. Thereby bringing higher levels
of enjoyment. Enjoying the whole process the way one might enjoy a weekend hobby
or the companionship of a loved one. These are the kinds of people who charge
out of bed in the mornings because they see the upcoming day as another
opportunity to be great.
Conversely there are those who don’t ever want there to be any problems
(opportunities). Believing that problems are to be avoided at all costs. In the
minds of these people problems are all bad. They see the very occurrence of
opportunity as a problem. They get caught up believing that it’s the end of
something rather than focusing on the new beginning that lies before them once
the challenge is met. These are the people who never confront either themselves
or others. They just accept. "Whatever works for you." "If
that’s what you want."
These people don’t realize it but they are victims. Accepting what comes
instead of actively going to where they want to be. Sometimes they see
themselves as peacekeepers. Which is not a bad thing to be but peacemaking would
be an even higher aspiration.
Peacemakers lean into conflict. Knowing the only true way to keep peace is by
resolving issues through confronting them rather than not. Martin Luther King
Jr. was a peacemaker. A peacemaker would rather go through instead of dancing
around things. Jesus Christ was a peacemaker. They understand going through is
conquering while dancing around is avoiding. Mohandas Gandhi was a peacemaker.
Avoiding is putting things off until they are so big and painful that they
become, well, unavoidable. I challenge you, as I have challenged myself to stop
avoiding things and deal with them. If things in your life aren’t the way you
need them to be in order to feel what you need to feel check yourself. Are you
resolving or avoiding?
And so the question, Which are you, a peacekeeper or a peacemaker? Do you see
opportunities or do you only see problems? Are you busy keeping the peace, or
are you actively confronting and resolving those issues in your life that are
calling for resolution? How do you view the challenges you are currently facing,
annoyances or welcomed opportunities?
Do you look forward to and welcome opportunities that challenge and grow you in
the process? Have you accepted the fact that sometimes life is not comfortable
but that "real life" happens in the midst of this discomfort? Are you
content to accept what life dishes out or are you scratching and clawing in the
trenches to pull from life and yourself the things you want and deserve?
Which is it going to be for you, Victim or Victor? The choice is all yours.
I offer these as my final thoughts on the subject:
Those of us who are crazy enough to think we can change the world, our world,
are the one’s who will surely do it. If you want to make your world a better
place in which to live, start by seizing the opportunities that are right now
before you.
Make that telephone call…
Write that letter…
Confront that person…Then tell them you love them.
Accept that setback and move on to the next battle…
Share the gift of ‘you’ with somebody, anybody.
Forgive…
Forget…
Do something… Do Anything!
Live!!
Thanks for sharing your time with me. I welcome your thoughts, comments.
Live some. Love some. Learn some. Everyday.
C...
About the Author:
Clyde Dennis, a.k.a. "Mr. How-To" has been writing and publishing
Articles and Newsletters online since 1999. Clyde's company EASYHow-To
Publications provides "How-To" information on How-To do, be or have
just about anything one can imagine. For more information visit http://www.EASYHow-To.com.
Email correspondence for Clyde should be sent to: cdennis at easyhow-to.com
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